There’s something special about experiencing something for the FIRST time (well not so much having a tooth filled, or a speeding fine or sitting an exam, but I digress). There’s something even more special about FIRST time achievements, especially when they represent an important goal.
So this week I taught my FIRST yoga class (and I appreciate all your kind words of congratulations). Aside from learning lots, breathing yogic sighs of relief and being really pleased I didn’t go all judgy on myself, this big FIRST also got me thinking about how we let the number (and perhaps quality) of FIRSTs in our lives shrink with age.
I guess this is the natural human experience. We get lots of FIRSTs out of the way in our FIRST year or so and then it’s all down hill (now that we’re walking) from there.
At 4.5 years my son is still to experience his FIRST day of school and his FIRST tooth falling out, amongst a host of other firsts. At 11, my daughter is yet to experience her FIRST kiss from a boy (well I think so!) and getting her to tidy her room properly, well that would be a FIRST!
I’ve been in CHANGE mode lately on the blog and in life.
Yet my FIRST teaching a yoga class is my FIRST FIRST in a while. Or is it?
There are bucket list FIRSTs that are usually ‘once offs’ – the thrill may be gone after you’ve jumped out a plane or run a marathon once, or maybe not.
Then there are FIRST steps/achievements towards long-term goals – a FIRST assignment submitted towards a university degree, a FIRST driver’s lesson (and even the FIRST failed attempt at getting your license, secured on the second go – that tester was tough!).
So how do we keep putting FIRSTs in our lives once we’ve ticked off first steps, first time swimming the length of the pool, first time voting etc?
How do we balance FIRSTs (and the desire for something new) with steadfast commitment to sticking at the same thing for a long time, through ups and downs, deepening into the experience (eg a FIRST marriage)!?
And how do we learn to welcome the lesson in failing a FIRST time and get back up and do it again?
Here are some ideas:
- Find FIRSTs in simple steps not just in grand achievements – make each stepping stone a milestone (9 weeks before I taught my first yoga class I took the FIRST step by starting teacher training and I’ve studied and progressed along the way)
- Celebrate big FIRSTs – don’t just breathe a sigh of relief, allow yourself the congratulations you deserve (including your own)
- Spice up your life with new things but don’t be so obsessed with new flavours that you forget to appreciate the simple, reliable taste that salt and pepper gives your life
- Celebrate long-term commitment – anniversaries but also just random moments along the journey, find FIRSTs within the long haul and appreciate those who come FIRST in your life
- Celebrate the lessons when you fail the FIRST time, and try even harder to find something to celebrate in failure second time around
How are you making a life of FIRSTs? Linking up with Grace for another FYBF?