Life is a balancing act – not just between the many things we seek (or have) to do, but in the way we actually live our lives, the energy we bring to daily living in each and every moment.
Most people seek balance – but what does that really mean? Different things to different people in different situations I’m sure. But to all of us it means finding a place of peace, joy, harmony and contentment where we feel centred.
This is what I’m striving to do – to balance the yin and yang energies in my life to help me BE content – content when experiencing highs and lows, balanced when things are moving fast and when they are slow, always embracing change – going with the flow the yin yang symbol depicts. And always trying to being grateful.
I’m Kathy and I’d love to share this journey towards balance and contentment with you.
- If you have unrealistically high expectations of yourself (and who knows, after adopting our two kids following a looong journey of infertility I’ve set myself parenting standards that are waaaay too high – for me at least!), then I’ll have tips for balance – ditch the perfectionism!
- If you suffer from mother guilt (and most of us do) then I’ve got that covered (the guilty bit anyway, and hopefully some good ideas on how to overcome it).
- Want to ‘find your flow’ after getting a bit lost in motherhood (or just a bit lost in life), then I’d love to share what I’ve learned from experience and from experts (hint, yep balance is involved).
- Want to explore yoga and meditation as tools for mindfulness, gratitude, balanced parenting and finding your flow? I’ve recently completed yoga teacher training and can share my experience and insights with you.
- And want to help your kids find calm and resilience – I’ve got kids meditation videos and tips that I hope can help.
- PS – if you want reassurance that it’s OK to wobble as you try to balance then you’re in the perfect place! I’m a wobbler from way back, and not just when I’ve had a few wines!
You can find more about me (including about our journey of infertility & adoption) and a bit about my professional background (I’m a former journalist and regular contributor to other websites including Do You Yoga and Tiny Buddha).
And if you want to work with me, I’d love to consider how we could work well together.
Thanks, Cheers & Namaste
My Purpose – Seek balance…embrace change…give thanks
My Motto – If at first you don’t find balance, there is wine, and there is always wisdom!
My Musings – on work-life balance, coping with change, gratitude, motherhood, Mummy time, guilt (mother guilt especially), infertility, adoption, yoga, meditation, Taoism and all things yin and yang.
Blog stars – Yinyang mother (that’s me), Mr Yang, Miss Yin (our 13 year old daughter), Little Yang (our 6 year old son)
PS: I will try, as I write, to bring things back to a theme of balance, to offer my own (and others) insights on embracing change, to always find things to be grateful for and to share this gratitude with you.
I will muse (and try not to rant) in ways that I hope will make you think, laugh and learn from my mistakes (easier than learning from your own).
Sometimes I might be funny, as in ha ha (or you may just find me funny peculiar). I make no promises.
Occasionally I might actually write something so profound as to stretch you or even change you (as I try to stretch and change myself).
I’ll tell stories, because that’s what I like to do, and I’ll offer tips when I think they might be useful. I am not a guru and I may not even be very wise. But I am learning, changing, growing on life’s journey to a contented kind of balance. I’m grateful that you might want to join me along the way.
Read my first post as a welcome to the yin and yang perspective on life.
I’m someone interested in balance, which means I’m human. Without balance we can’t stand up straight (with apologies to those whose abilities are limited in this area), so that we run the risk of falling flat on our faces. I’ve fallen flat on my face before, after a few too many wines. It really hurt. But more importantly, without balance, we can’t really live our lives fully – at least that’s what I think.
Sure extremes can be great big adrenaline rushes (have you ever pondered how extreme enjoyment and extreme disaster both stimulate adrenaline in similar ways), but you can’t sustain the highs and noone wants to stay down in the doldrums.
The very Zen-like path to contentment is a journey into balance. Happiness is great, when experienced along a continuum of contentment.
Ok, so that’s my philosophy, which of course isn’t mine but is borrowed (and bastardised no doubt) from many different traditions, none of which I’m an expert in, none of which I adhere to in any way perfectly, but all of which have something to offer – IMHO.
My philosophy is based on trying to understand the principles of the ancient mystical tradition of Taoism as they relate to my life, without claiming to know that much about Taoism (at all) and while trying to surrender to the universal way.
Why examine yin yang in my life? Why this interest in Taoism? And why do I think my quest for understanding and balance could be of any value to anyone else? Very good questions.
You could say I’m having a mid-life crisis, but that would be clichéd. The facts are that I’m a mother of two in her early (OK well
almost mid) forties, who happens to have adopted her two children from China.
I’ve been tolerantly (and happily) married for
18 19 years to my tolerant (for the most part) husband. We suffered infertility. We did the whole IVF thing (which is just an expression to summarise several years of living hell). The pain of those ‘lost’ years has been balanced out by our extreme good fortune in being able to parent our daughter – Miss Yin (12) and son – Little Yang (6). This extreme good fortune turns more extreme and less good during the ‘witching hour’ when often only wine will restore balance in my life!
I didn’t just happen to adopt two children from China. Serendipity and an invisible red thread had something to do with how we came to be parents to our beautiful children, and how they came to be stuck with us. Loss and gain. Yin and Yang. The yin and yang of life, contained, hopefully, within a circle of love.
Before adoption I was interested in China, now I’m fascinated by it. Before adoption I was spiritual, now I’m trying to be authentic in looking to a tradition that originated in the country that gave me my children for guidance.
Professionally, I’m a journalist, or a former journo at least, who worked for over a decade in television reporting and presenting, dabbled in radio and has since done some freelance magazine writing.
I moved into government marketing and communications and later established my own consultancy. I then branched into economic development, with a focus on higher education, and managed business and community engagement for a university. Lately I’ve been back writing again as part of my job, including for a website moregoldcoast.com, as well as a number of other sites including Tiny Buddha and Do You Yoga.
In other words, I’ve had a hodgepodge career that has been shaped (or misshapen) by my strong desire to be a parent, and more recently by my horrible realisation that perhaps, after all we went through to be parents, after all the losses of adoption felt by everyone in the adoption triad, even after all that we’ve been blessed with, parenting alone isn’t quite enough to satisfy me!
Clearly I need to cultivate gratitude.
So now I’m attempting to write a blog that will help in my quest to more balanced (and more grateful) and hopefully provide some insight to help someone (anyone) do the same.
I really hope I don’t fail. If I do, at first, then success will come in the natural flow of yin and yang through life. I just want to inject some positive energy into that flow, sort of supercharge it.
So here’s cheers to a supercharged, positive sort of balance – to finding your flow!