There’s a big difference don’t you think – between reacting and responding?! (reacting has an exclamation mark after it for starters)!
I’m trying to respond rather than react. From a yin-yang perspective there’s room for yin reflection in deciding to respond. There’s time to think and it’s implicit that a response is based more on your own thoughts (taking into consideration what someone else has said or recommended) as opposed to a quick (yang) comeback that it is more about how you feel about what someone has said.
In actual fact the old Thesaurus has ‘respond’ as a synonym for ‘react’ – but then it also has ‘counter’ and ‘retort’ as alternatives, and they just seem argumentative.
Sure initial reactions can be spontaneous, intuitive and authentic, but they can also be impulsive and angry. Responding is more thoughtful, rational and cogent.
Ok, enough with semantics.
For me responding means taking some yin time, while still considering my initial gut reaction. It can be hard to do in the heat of the moment, when you can be quick to reach for a smart retort or an angry aside (fessing up, I can be quick to grab for a faark and hurl it in frustration).
On the flip-side, there’s no point simply stewing before you respond, while a delayed response can just amount to procrastination and avoidance (fear) or over-analysis (all head and no heart). So it’s a work in progress, this responding rather than reacting. A balancing act.
I’m blown away by how many people are moving soooo fast post-Problogger to change their blogs, implement 30-day-challenges, create new Podcasts, plan their time and roll-out whole new plans. It’s been a fantastic flurry of activity.
It’s great that so many have been inspired into such quick action, but for me I don’t want to simply ‘react’ to Problogger. I don’t want to act out of FOMO, or a sense of inadequacy, because believe me, I feel both. As I posted, I’m happy with my ‘One Thing’ and pleased to ponder for a little while longer at least.
The conference ended less than a week ago, and I know I need to harness that burst of inspiration (or watch it wither), but I have to be realistic about my time constraints, and I want to choose how I’m going to respond to the lessons of the event, in my own time.
And just quietly, this week has been rather busy (although not much different to normal). I’ve:
- Taught three yoga classes (including my first permanent Sunday class)
- Practised three yoga classes
- Took Miss Yin to her dance eisteddfod
- Took Miss Yin to her ballet exam (and sewed on new ballet shoe ribbons – dental floss works best)
- Provided homework help for two kids
- Done speech therapy homework with Little Yang
- Worked three days (four including today) at my day job (including doing a presentation to the Office of the CEO, attending assorted meetings and writing two feature articles for moregoldcoast.com.au)
- Written one (now two) blog posts
- Written one regular guest post for Do You Yoga
- Read (and commented on) about 20 blog posts
- 1 x ultrasound scan appointment (nothing too urgent, I hope)
- 2 x birthday presents purchased
- 1 x friend’s birthday lunch attended
- 3 x dinners made (hubby cooked the other two – yeh)
- Made a couple of school lunches, did some (Ok not much) laundry and not much housework at all (hubby has been holding the fort)
- Found some time for social media connection (and wasting time)
- Not found enough time for meditation
So no 30-day yoga and/or meditation challenges from me (just yet). No sweeping changes or radical redesigns. I’m not reacting in a rush, because the best I can really do is to hasten slowly.
Meantime, I’d love you to let me know what you’d like me to work on – and call me out in the future if you think I’m a slack-ass making excuses.