#authentic #awesome #April

Kathy Krugerbalance, contentment, fear17 Comments

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So I couldn’t decide whether April should be all about being authentic or being awesome! And you have to have a hashtag these days!

#Awesome sounds kinda great, and #authentic, well it sounds kinda real.

Both would be, well, balanced of course!

Seriously, I always try to be authentic, and I’d rather be considered authentic any day than awesome. Both would be bloody fantastic.

I don’t think you can be awesome without being authentic, otherwise you’re just faking it and your awesomeness will be revealed for the fraud it is.

Authenticity is where it starts and finishes.

So how to be more #authentic?

By being vulnerable. By showing all the ways in which you aren’t so #awesome. By acknowledging the (many) ways in which you are the awesomesauce!

#confused?

Sorry.

In April, I’m not going to fool myself (get it, this is posted on April Fool’s Day) or anyone else into thinking I’ve got all these awesome answers.

I don’t.

I have a few theories, some hard-earned lessons, some shameful mistakes that make me think I have something to offer on this awesomely authentic life journey.

That’s it.

And while I always try to be authentic, I could be more vulnerable, all of us probably could. Vulnerable is good for the soul.

I’ve written a few posts in the past where I’ve owned my flaws – the yelling, the guilt, the excuses.

This new post lays raw my insecurities about being an Adoptive Mum and the debt I feel I owe.

But in the interests of keeping my vulnerability to a word limit, here’s my list of the top (or should that be worst) five ways I’m not so awesome.

  • I let fear stop me, too much of the time
  • I’m jealous of other’s success (I have like/comment/idea envy) and I care far too much about what people think of me (when they aren’t thinking much at all about me – I care about that too!)
  • Too often I’d rather sneak a few hours on my own writing etc than spend it with my kids – how bad is that?
  • I wallow in self-pity (you know the whole infertility sucked and robbed me of so many years of my life, blah, blah – just get over it!)
  • I wallow in feeling ‘not good enough’ – ENOUGH already!

And this is the really hard part, the top five ways in which I may actually be slightly #AWESOME.

  • I’m a really caring person – for the most part I want to help people, even when I get jealous
  • I think positively about people – I guess I make myself vulnerable to being hurt in this way, but I’d rather see the good – I reckon this is a strength
  • I’m resilient – I know this because I’ve been through s#it, survived and grown through it
  • I’m creative – ideas are going gang-busters in my head and they are often soul-inspired (execution needs work)
  • I’m hard-working – I don’t mind putting in the hard yards to get things done and I can be tenacious

I reckon you make yourself much more vulnerable by acknowledging your awesomeness than you do in admitting your weaknesses. But you also show yourself to be genuinely authentic when you do so.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

Marianne Williamson

So that’s my challenge to you for April  – be authentically awesome – be vulnerable with admitting your weaknesses and vulnerable in acknowledging your strengths.

And I promise authenticity, vulnerability and hopefully a bit of awesomeness thrown in for the next month at least.

What ways are you awesome – come on you can do it (comment below)?

Linking up with Essentially Jess for IBOT.

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17 Comments on “#authentic #awesome #April”

  1. Lydia C. Lee

    Just going to pick one thing in this, but could really go to town on a few of them (you are too hard on yourself) “◾Too often I’d rather sneak a few hours on my own writing etc than spend it with my kids – how bad is that?” It’s not bad at all. As Seinfeld recently said ‘we are too invested in parenting’ (not that he was saying that we should be bad parents, but that we over indulged our kids, in our efforts to make parenting about US! In the ’70’s, our parents never played with us, unless it was some really huge deal, or a board game. If we did a puzzle, we did it by ourselves. If we played trains, we did it by ourselves…there was no expectation that the parent would join in. They had their adult interests, and we had our kid interests. Once a year, they would withdraw all the money from the bank and take us to a kids movie. Or sneak us into the drive in to watch a movie they wanted to watch (I still blame my fear of sharks on seeing Thunderball as a 3 year old).
    So what are you teaching your kids? that you are a person with interests. That they aren’t the centre of the Universe. That they need to work out how to entertain themselves by themselves, without a television. So instead of ‘how bad is that?’, pat yourself on the back and praise yourself for doing your kids a favour.

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Thanks Lydia – you know I probably need a kick up the bum for being too hard on myself. I know I should cut myself some slack but sometimes I can’t se the ways. And you are right that our kids don’t need to be the centre of attention, that it is better if they are not a lot of the time – I don’t think I over-indulge but somehow I do feel guilty about doling out time.

  2. Eleise @ A Very Blended Family

    Such a tough question Kathy. I know I am an awesome wife because in my first marriage I wasn’t. I thik kindly about my husband and do things to keep our marriage happy. I also think I am a good mum, I make the effort to walk to school, listen, talk, spend time, cook and take my kids away. I sure love the me time too but I think that helps me be a better mum not a worse one!

  3. Me

    I love this – I definitely think you are authentically awesome. And you are right – sometimes it’s harder to acknowledge the things we are good at while we can sprout off ad nauseum (sp?) about what we aren’t good at. I love that you have 5 of each but then again, it’s about balance and that is what you give to all of us.
    Love, hugs and positive energy !
    Me

  4. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me

    I love why you think you are awesome, you are all of those and more! And it’s okay to still feel hung up on past experiences and even to get upset about news ones, it shows you care about the direction of your life and what you want to achieve. So I’m awesome because I try very hard to be patient at dinner time with 3 children want my attention. I’m also awesome because I left my career when I was getting ‘up there’ to become a mum! Em – also visiting as part of #teamIBOT

  5. mamagrace71

    I’m big on being authentic. Sometimes I focus so much on it though, I wonder if I end up defeating the purpose, does that make sense?
    But even though it’s not pretty, when I do dig deep and articulate properly what I really feel, there’s a huge sense of satisfaction.
    Every single time x

    1. Kathy Kruger

      I agree that you a very authentic and a lovely person because of it. And I agree that when we are honest with ourselves and vulnerable it feels scary but good.

  6. EssentiallyJess

    I could identify with almost all of your weakness Kathy. All but one hit very close to home for me. And it’s hard to admit them too sometimes.
    But yes, admitting your awesome things makes you so much more vulnerable doesn’t it?
    And yet I love this post of yours so much. It makes me want to take you out for coffee and chat for hours xx

  7. Tegan Churchill

    You are one of the most authentic people I know. I have loved getting to know you through your blog. Like Lydia though I want to say that it isn’t bad that you want to sneak off and write without your children. Sometimes we get so caught up in being Mum that we lose sight of who we are as people, as Kathy and Tegan. Writing can help you stay in touch with that person..and well it’s certainly not the worse thing you could be sneaking off to do!

  8. Renee Wilson

    Kathy, you are seriously authentic and seriously awesome. Some of my fave posts of yours have been the ones you’ve listed above. The ones where you lay yourself bare. That is a hard thing to do. I often feel like you are talking directly to me and that is awesome :) I will try my best to be authentically awesome this April. You are right, finding your weaknesses is easy. Finding our awesomeness is not so easy. Great post.

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