The guilt gene!

Kathy Krugerchange, guilt, motherhood, peace27 Comments

I can’t help it – it’s in my genes! For a Mum who wonders more than most about nature vs nurture (our kids being adopted and all), I wonder about the DNA that leaves me feeling like someone is always saying to me ‘Thou Shalt Not’  of ‘Thou should not have’ from on high, from within myself – where is … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe guilt gene!

The little baby with the big smile

Kathy Krugeradoption, China, gratitude, motherhood, red thread5 Comments

I’ve previously shared what I wrote about the day we met our daughter 9 years ago, so thought I’d share the experience of meeting our son. Happy Mother’s Day to all Mums. More than six years after adopting our Katelin Jiachang we welcomed our Liam Chi Jie into our lives, with our good friends alongside us welcoming siblings for their beautiful daughters…the … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe little baby with the big smile

The time of my life

Kathy Krugerbalance, motherhood, mummytime, peace14 Comments

With mother’s day approaching I’m contemplating a whole weekend with the kids, all to myself. Yeh! squeaks my inner voice. My outer voice will be more likely to yell in frustration at the kids and curse hubby who could have timed his work shifts better and given me the ‘day off’ or at least some quality family time.

Kathy KrugerThe time of my life

Do you ever get over infertility?

Kathy Krugeradoption, gratitude, guilt, IVF, motherhood, perspective31 Comments

Do you ever get over the death of a loved one? Do you ever fully recover after trauma, or accident, or a life-threatening illness? Does divorce always leave love a little (or a lot) broken for you? Does financial loss always leave you feeling poor? Does failure always leave you feeling a failure? When you get a second chance, renewed … Read More

Kathy KrugerDo you ever get over infertility?

Let nature be your playground

Kathy Krugerhappiness, motherhood2 Comments

In this day and age of public liability insurance nightmares and larger than life lawsuits it was refreshing to see the main attraction in a playground at Brisbane’s Southbank Parklands – a tree. Not just any old tree, a very old tree, I’m guessing several hundred years old.

Kathy KrugerLet nature be your playground

Yinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Kathy Krugerbalance, guilt, motherhood, yinyang12 Comments

Yin and yang can mistakenly be taken to mean bad (that’s supposedly yin) and good (supposedly yang). But in reality there is ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yin and ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yang. And then there are ‘bad’ versions of both. It’s all relative. Actually it’s all about balance and excess. The worst place to be is actually when we allow either … Read More

Kathy KrugerYinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Because being a mother is all about the other(s)

Kathy Krugerbalance, gratitude, motherhood, mummytime5 Comments

It’s time to bring back balance with some Mmmm… Massage – unwind and relax (with or without Sven) Meditation – quiet time for yourself (YES just you and the universe) Mindfullness – because you truly have time to think Meals – that you don’t cook yourself (preferably at a restaurant) Movies – that aren’t meant for kids Music – that you … Read More

Kathy KrugerBecause being a mother is all about the other(s)

Not another baby shower

Kathy Krugeradoption, contentment, gratitude, guilt, IVF, motherhood, red thread2 Comments

I should start by saying it was beautiful, just as the baby who will be my great niece or nephew (OMG) will no doubt be beautiful.  It’s been a while between baby showers (if not drinks). And they get easier, they really do, but still…. Ok – first to address my faux horror at being a Great Aunt (by marriage I must … Read More

Kathy KrugerNot another baby shower

The worst day of my life (Memoir March)

Kathy Krugeradoption, IVF, motherhood, perspective, red thread, Uncategorized2 Comments

Australia, August 15, 1998  On the worst day of my life, the scan couldn’t find our baby. It was supposed to be the most magical of moments – that first glimpse of our child/children – an eight-week-old embryo or embryos. Just a dot sized shadow on the screen no doubt. Or double dots. The untrained eye would doubtless miss him/her/them. But … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe worst day of my life (Memoir March)

Love the person, not the reflection

Kathy Krugeradoption, love, motherhood, yinyang2 Comments

As my children are adopted, they don’t look like me (and luckily for them haven’t inherited my funny feet). I look at them with love (of course) even though I can’t see my physical resemblance in them – or perhaps because I can’t. So I am free to pile on the praise about how beautiful my daughter is (skin deep) … Read More

Kathy KrugerLove the person, not the reflection

Love the gifts of Hindsight and Foresight

Kathy Krugeradoption, change, contentment, go with the flow, IVF, perspective, yinyang3 Comments

In the end, the journey was as long as it needed to be. It sounds like one of those poignant closing lines from an epic story of love and adventure, the fairy tale kind with twists and turns and hopes of a happy conclusion dashed around every corner, until the narrative rounds that very last bend, the orchestra reaches its … Read More

Kathy KrugerLove the gifts of Hindsight and Foresight

Stop complaining, start changing (and grow)

Kathy Krugerchange, motherhood, perspective, yinyang1 Comment

Little Yang growing up

I feel a little bad starting a post about quitting complaining by grumbling about my son. But if enduring his world-class whinging and whining has been worth anything, it’s been to teach me that embracing change is the secret to stopping complaining…to waking up one morning with nothing to carp about and everything to appreciate.

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