I can’t help it – it’s in my genes! For a Mum who wonders more than most about nature vs nurture (our kids being adopted and all), I wonder about the DNA that leaves me feeling like someone is always saying to me ‘Thou Shalt Not’ of ‘Thou should not have’ from on high, from within myself – where is … Read More
I’ve previously shared what I wrote about the day we met our daughter 9 years ago, so thought I’d share the experience of meeting our son. Happy Mother’s Day to all Mums. More than six years after adopting our Katelin Jiachang we welcomed our Liam Chi Jie into our lives, with our good friends alongside us welcoming siblings for their beautiful daughters…the … Read More
With mother’s day approaching I’m contemplating a whole weekend with the kids, all to myself. Yeh! squeaks my inner voice. My outer voice will be more likely to yell in frustration at the kids and curse hubby who could have timed his work shifts better and given me the ‘day off’ or at least some quality family time.
Do you ever get over the death of a loved one? Do you ever fully recover after trauma, or accident, or a life-threatening illness? Does divorce always leave love a little (or a lot) broken for you? Does financial loss always leave you feeling poor? Does failure always leave you feeling a failure? When you get a second chance, renewed … Read More
In this day and age of public liability insurance nightmares and larger than life lawsuits it was refreshing to see the main attraction in a playground at Brisbane’s Southbank Parklands – a tree. Not just any old tree, a very old tree, I’m guessing several hundred years old.
Yin and yang can mistakenly be taken to mean bad (that’s supposedly yin) and good (supposedly yang). But in reality there is ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yin and ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yang. And then there are ‘bad’ versions of both. It’s all relative. Actually it’s all about balance and excess. The worst place to be is actually when we allow either … Read More
It’s time to bring back balance with some Mmmm… Massage – unwind and relax (with or without Sven) Meditation – quiet time for yourself (YES just you and the universe) Mindfullness – because you truly have time to think Meals – that you don’t cook yourself (preferably at a restaurant) Movies – that aren’t meant for kids Music – that you … Read More
I should start by saying it was beautiful, just as the baby who will be my great niece or nephew (OMG) will no doubt be beautiful. It’s been a while between baby showers (if not drinks). And they get easier, they really do, but still…. Ok – first to address my faux horror at being a Great Aunt (by marriage I must … Read More
Australia, August 15, 1998 On the worst day of my life, the scan couldn’t find our baby. It was supposed to be the most magical of moments – that first glimpse of our child/children – an eight-week-old embryo or embryos. Just a dot sized shadow on the screen no doubt. Or double dots. The untrained eye would doubtless miss him/her/them. But … Read More
As my children are adopted, they don’t look like me (and luckily for them haven’t inherited my funny feet). I look at them with love (of course) even though I can’t see my physical resemblance in them – or perhaps because I can’t. So I am free to pile on the praise about how beautiful my daughter is (skin deep) … Read More
In the end, the journey was as long as it needed to be. It sounds like one of those poignant closing lines from an epic story of love and adventure, the fairy tale kind with twists and turns and hopes of a happy conclusion dashed around every corner, until the narrative rounds that very last bend, the orchestra reaches its … Read More
I feel a little bad starting a post about quitting complaining by grumbling about my son. But if enduring his world-class whinging and whining has been worth anything, it’s been to teach me that embracing change is the secret to stopping complaining…to waking up one morning with nothing to carp about and everything to appreciate.