So the big ‘blood’ moon eclipse was a no-show in the skies last week (it was red and eclipsed, we just couldn’t see it for the clouds) and now we’re getting ready for a partial solar eclipse with a new moon next week (we won’t see it either as it will only be visible over North America). Two eclipses in one month is a pretty rare astrological phenomenon, plus we’re expecting a second meteor shower for the month, which is also pretty unusual, and Mercury is retrograde (which means things can go awry)!
And then there’s the wild, freakish weather that has hit NSW – talk about change sending things crazy woo woo!
Do you feel the state of flux?
I certainly do (I feel major change is afoot for me – a subject for another post – but suffice it to say I’m flexing my courage muscles).
Last week I asked a couple of key questions about whether you see change happening TO you or FOR you, and whether you see change coming from the OUTSIDE or from WITHIN.
My answers were FOR and WITHIN. Most people agreed.
While it’s comforting to believe that ultimately change is our own choice, for our own benefit, it can still be really scary when we can’t see change coming (like a blood-moon obscured by clouds) and when it happens all-of-a-sudden (like a one in one hundred year storm event).
So here are my top tips for how we can get more comfortable, and skilled, at coping with change, so that big sudden ones don’t scare the sh#t out of us.
- A change a day keeps the fear away. Start small. Especially if you’re a routine person, change-up one little thing – your route to work, the order of the steps you take in getting yourself (and your household) out the door; try a new morning affirmation; change your regular coffee order. Simply treating life as a bit of an ongoing experiment (which of course it is) exercises our change muscles.
- See change as an evolution rather than a revolution – some changes feel pretty dramatic, but it’s not like we encounter ‘off-with-your-head’ kind of French Revolution change every day. The real revolution occurs in the moment we decide to make/accept/fully embrace a change – after that it’s just an evolution, a process. And if you’ve survived the revolution with your head intact, how hard can the evolution be?
- Act (just a little bit) like a corporate (or worse still a government) – make a whole job (heck make a whole department) out of managing change. Think benefits realisation and management, stakeholder engagement, identifying assumptions, risks, dependencies – yep the whole hog. But seriously, a little planning can go a long way towards giving you the tools to manage change.
- Go with the flow (just a bit) – don’t let yourself be swept up in the currents of change, but do allow yourself to flow with it, rather than paddling upstream. I reckon the universe is pretty smart – arguing with change is like arguing with the smartest person you’ll ever meet.
- Look back – how many times have you changed in your life – and you’re still here right?! Your courage for current (and future) change lies in the resilience you’ve gained from facing change in the past.
- Look forward – what changes can you foresee ahead – think mostly of positive ones, like grand-kids and retirement (on your own terms) and positive ageing so your wrinkles bother you less. Imagine not having these anticipated life changes!
- Have patience – because sometimes, maybe often, change doesn’t come fast enough.
- Breathe, do yoga,meditate – to help you deal with the stress and just because it’s good for you.
If we prioritise our energies on doing what we’ve always done, we’ll never have any energy left for change.
What if we were to expend even 10-20percent of our daily effort on planning for change, looking for new opportunities, being alert for serendipity and synchronicity (two of my favourite things in the world), building our ‘universal’ skill set that always stands us in good stead no matter what happens, and putting our beliefs and values under some regular scrutiny, rather than doggedly doing what we’ve been doing? Change might just happen incrementally without us really realising.
Anticipating and preparing for change doesn’t mean you stop living in the moment – it just means you know the next moment will arrive, because hey, CHANGE!
Now speaking of change, what do you reckon of my slow transformation of our bedroom, still a few touches to go (side table/stool and lamp, new blinds, new wardrobe doors….).
I cannot say whether things will get better if we change; what I can say is they must change if they are to get better.Georg C. Lichtenberg, 1742-1799, German experimental physicist
Linking up with Grace for another FYBF. What do you think of all that change management crock? Any other tips?