Find your flow by letting go

Kathy Krugerfind your flow, yinyang7 Comments

You might call me lazy, but I like to follow the wisdom of Chinese sage Lao Tsu when he says ‘By letting go, all things get done’.

Sounds easy doesn’t it. Just relax. Chill out. Like you don’t actually have to DO anything – just go with the flow (I bet you’re picturing yourself floating on a lie-low down some languid stream, tropical sun shining down, cocktail in hand…mmm).

But this mantra is not a lazy person’s guide to life nor an ancient version of the quintessential laidback Aussie refrain, delivered with a drawl, ‘she’ll be right mate’.

Not lazy and not easy, but worth it

Letting go means both surrendering control AND finding your flow. And they are two very important and often very difficult actions. Nothing lazy or easy about them.

The first one takes energy, but mostly courage. RELEASE. THE. GRIP.

The second one takes courage too, but I think you’ll discover all this newfound energy and power, when you stop wasting so much energy by holding on.

Here are some lessons I’ve learned in trying to let go and find my flow (I’m still learning!).

Let me, with the help of Wikipedia, do the math.

Math 101 – The energy of letting go is equal to the energy of going with the flow. By letting go you supercharge the flow of your life – think Life² or even Life³ – imagine that!
Maths + Geography  – Think of all that energy that comes over the top of a waterfall – this is what letting go delivers into your life stream – imagine that!

Just imagine the power – More than 6 million cubic feet (168,000 m3) of water falls over the crest of Niagara Falls every minute in high flow, and almost 4 million cubic feet (110,000 m3) on average.  That’s 10,080,000m³ every hour at high flow or 241,920,000m³ per day.

The world’s tallest waterfall, Angel Falls in Venezuala, plunges over 800 metres into the jungle below – just imagine the ride!

I don’t know about you, but I’ve found myself in awe at the beauty and majesty of even much smaller waterfalls.  Shannon Falls, the third highest in British Columbia Canada (335m or 1100ft) are spectacular, while Purlingbrook Falls, in the Springbrook National Park near where I live, still inspire at a (mere) 106m or 350ft high. Waterfalls make you feel small, powerless even – which can be a good thing.

Purlingbrook Falls

Purlingbrook Falls

Let go of fear, surrender control, find your power

Harnessing the power of the flow is about letting go of fear (and the grip of past pain, anger, guilt, shame) – but it’s much more than that. It’s about letting go of the very notion that we can control things (or at least everything). It’s about letting go of the idea that we should in fact control everything and that life will work out better if we do.  After all, we know better than the universe, don’t we? Do you want fear or the universe in charge of your life? (Of course you still need to steer and row your own boat in the universal flow – although perhaps not actually over Niagara or Angel Falls!).

I think letting go is very different to surrendering to fate, because being fatalistic comes with the limitations of remaining a victim to circumstances.  In many ways this view perpetuates holding on – to past pain, guilt, shame, to the idea that we can’t move beyond where we’ve come from, the victim we may have been, the place where we are now, when of course things change all the time.

To be fatalistic is to be stuck in a stagnant pool of life or cast adrift in the rapids heading for the falls. You’re going nowhere, or you’re headed for a wipe-out.


Shannon Falls, British Columbia

Letting go is the yang action, acceptance the yin reflection. We need to accept that we can’t always control things in order to let go. We need to let go in order to enjoy the now and to move on with acceptance so we can find our flow. This is the principle of what I’m calling reYINvention – finding the calm within the flow so you can ‘find your flow’.

And we can get so many great things done by letting go of what we don’t need to do, by giving up on being who we don’t need to be.

To realise the wisdom and power of going with the flow is to do what nature does, naturally, powerfully, beautifully. And I think you’d agree that waterfalls are pretty beautiful.

What’s your favourite waterfall? Linking up with Essentially Jess for IBOT.

Namaste sign off_edited-1Kathy X 

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7 Comments on “Find your flow by letting go”

  1. Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit

    Ahhh, Letting go. One of the hardest things for me. One of my biggest personality traits is commitment. I am attracted to other people who are also committed. If you say you’re going to do something then do it! Yeah, commitment, Do you know how hard it is for a committed person to let go?
    I will try Kathy … I will try …

  2. Trish MLDB

    Twin Falls in NT I think, we paddled on lilo’s to reach it , if I recall rightly.
    I don’t let go enough.
    (Now i’ll have that song as my earworm today).
    I’m feeling a lot of fear right now, great post to read, Thank you Kathy.

  3. Min@WriteoftheMiddle

    Kathy – another gorgeous insightful post! Letting go is one of the hardest things to do. I recall writing a post on this subject in early 2015 with regards to the Mindfulness Attitude of Letting Go. They say that letting go is the doorway to freedom! 🙂 xo

  4. caitlinshappyheart

    I love waterfalls! Letting go, now that can be sometimes a bit hard! Great analogy though, and one I shall think about next time I need to let something go, the Niagra Falls shall come to mind!

  5. mummywifeme

    This is something I’m really not good at. The closest I am to finding my flow is when I’m swimming. The rest of the time I feel like I’m clinging on for dear life and letting go is a foreign concept 🙂

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