Grow consciously

Kathy Krugerfind your flow, yoga12 Comments

Little Yang is still sooo small as we contemplate him starting school next year. He’s ready (or will be in three months time) even if he doesn’t look it.

The size 4 uniforms are purchased (ouch $) and they swim on him. They swim on most preppies, but after yesterday’s orientation it’s clear he’ll be one of the smallest.

Yet of course I recognize his growth – physically, mentally, socially – his development into his own little person. He’s becoming his own person faster than his body can keep up.

We don’t see the centimetres that a child grows overnight. We don’t see them gain each gram. After those first few words, we stop noticing each addition to their vocabulary. Their growth is punctuated with FIRSTS, with milestones that we celebrate and record, yet their everyday, incremental growing up just happens and we SIGH and wonder how our baby became a toddler, the toddler became a little boy or girl, the small child becomes a school student, the student becomes the adult.

As our adult our physical growth/change is also unconscious – kilos that creep on over Christmas stick around after the holiday season, we gain weight in grams that nudge us up a dress size before we know it, and when we work to lose weight it’s a slow battle to take each gram off – we can’t remember it being so hard to put the weight on, it just happened!

In yoga we learn to be more in tune with the bodily functions that happen unconsciously (the yin aspect of our body).

Breathing, digestion, heating, cooling, rejuvenation, weight gain! We learn to really breathe (normal shallow breathing only uses about 10percent of our lung capacity) – we breathe to warm our bodies up, to calm and cool our bodies down. We learn how to activate our digestive system with a simple compression posture, how to reset our nervous system and help regulate our sleep cycle and metabolism.

All this, when you might have thought yoga was just about a bunch of stretches!

Through yoga I’ve come to appreciate just how amazing our bodies (and minds) are naturally (without exercise, and especially with it).

In nature growth, life, just happens.

There’s that famous bible verse about the lilies in the field not worrying about flowering.

It reminds us that we shouldn’t worry about growing, achieving, changing – that we are already enough (perfect even) the way we are, the way we were born. All we have to do is remember that.

As Neil Donald Walsh (of Conversations with God fame) says – who’s going to argue a newborn baby isn’t perfect?

Our job then is to simply grow in awareness of our own natural potential that we’ve forgotten – that society’s expectations and our own self-judgment cause us to become unconscious to.

We forget what we were born to do, our innate purpose and so go in search for it – getting frustrated and down on ourselves in the process.

We hide our talents under a biblical bushel because our ego fears judgment.

We need to unlearn what we don’t need to know.

Our job as parents is to let those little preppies blossom like lilies in the field as they start a journey of learning that’s truly about them discovering all that they were born capable of. It’s to make sure our school system and our own expectations don’t stifle them from discovering all that they already are.

I think yoga and meditation can help kids stay aware of their own amazing potential (before they forget it), even as society seems to want to squash their confidence and their dreams.

And our job is to grow consciously as role models and simply for ourselves – in awareness and appreciation of our own divine potential.

What do you reckon – how do we stop our kids losing their belief in their own potential? How do we regain it ourselves? Linking up with Grace for another FYBF and joining in for Weekend Rewind with Bron, Sonia, Kelly and Sonia.

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12 Comments on “Grow consciously”

  1. Min (@riteofthemiddle)

    Little Yang is such a gorgeous little cutie! He might seem so little right now but just wait and see all the growth spurts ahead. You will be needed to buy bigger uniforms before you know it. What an exciting year next year will be for you all 🙂 x

  2. mummywifeme

    Good question, Kathy. Once you figure it out let me know. I wish I could pinpoint the time when I lost that confidence in my own potential. I was very confident in my early to mid 20s. Anyway, I am working on it 🙂 Your boy is such a darling. So cute in this preppie uniform.

    1. Kathy Kruger

      I think your blog is a big part of getting your confidence back high again (or it should be as you do a great job). It would be wonderful to think our kids would never lose the sheer possibility of anything and everything. Being in my mid-forties I have to convince myself that I still have time to realise a whole lot of opportunities.

  3. kirstyrussell75

    Excellent question Kathy – unfortunately I don’t have the answer but it really is a universal experience for all, isn’t it?
    I’m holding my 4 yo back for another year because she isn’t quite ready for the rigours of school yet but all the best to Little Yang for next year x

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Thanks Kirsty – I’m confident we’re doing the right thing with Little Yang in going to school next year – he’ll be in Prep while our daughter is in Year 6 and it will be lovely to have that cross-over year for them – the only time they’ll be together in school.

  4. Sonia Life Love Hiccups

    i wish i had that answer Kathy and will be following the comments closely for advice. Oh but Yang melts me in his uniform. One of mine was the same when he started… in fact he is now in year four and still wears a six six – 8. We held 2 of ours back and wish we had done the same for all 3 but because he turn 5 only days before school started he had to go. xx

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Sorry for my late reply Sonia – I’m pretty confident we’re doing the right thing sending Little Yang next year – he’ll get to have a year with his big sister in Year 6 and it will be the only time they’re in school together. I think we will get a few years out of his uniform too!

  5. Caz @ Home Heart Haven

    Beautiful post Kathy. I can’t believe it’s two years since my little man was getting ready to start school. His anxiety means he can feel wobbly at times. One of the things we’ve done is to put up a huge sheet of paper in his room and he and I list or draw his strengths (both skill-based and character). The visual reminders seem to help. Maybe I should do it for myself!

    1. Kathy Kruger

      What a lovely idea to have such an encouraging poster in your son’s room to remind him of how strong he is. We could probably all benefit from something like that.

  6. Grace

    Whether it’s through yoga, meditation or some other form of spiritual lesson, I think it’s so important to teach our children that they are loved just the way they are. I’m holding the boys back another year because I’d rather for them to feel completely confident rather than confused.
    Your little boy is so gorgeous in his uniform. He is so ready x

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Thanks Grace – I think Little Yang is ready in part because of his big sister – having the older child helps. Plus they get to share in one year of school together – it will be so cute to watch them together and Miss Yin can learn some more responsibility looking after her preppie brother.

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