Little Yang is still sooo small as we contemplate him starting school next year. He’s ready (or will be in three months time) even if he doesn’t look it.
The size 4 uniforms are purchased (ouch $) and they swim on him. They swim on most preppies, but after yesterday’s orientation it’s clear he’ll be one of the smallest.
Yet of course I recognize his growth – physically, mentally, socially – his development into his own little person. He’s becoming his own person faster than his body can keep up.
We don’t see the centimetres that a child grows overnight. We don’t see them gain each gram. After those first few words, we stop noticing each addition to their vocabulary. Their growth is punctuated with FIRSTS, with milestones that we celebrate and record, yet their everyday, incremental growing up just happens and we SIGH and wonder how our baby became a toddler, the toddler became a little boy or girl, the small child becomes a school student, the student becomes the adult.
As our adult our physical growth/change is also unconscious – kilos that creep on over Christmas stick around after the holiday season, we gain weight in grams that nudge us up a dress size before we know it, and when we work to lose weight it’s a slow battle to take each gram off – we can’t remember it being so hard to put the weight on, it just happened!
In yoga we learn to be more in tune with the bodily functions that happen unconsciously (the yin aspect of our body).
Breathing, digestion, heating, cooling, rejuvenation, weight gain! We learn to really breathe (normal shallow breathing only uses about 10percent of our lung capacity) – we breathe to warm our bodies up, to calm and cool our bodies down. We learn how to activate our digestive system with a simple compression posture, how to reset our nervous system and help regulate our sleep cycle and metabolism.
All this, when you might have thought yoga was just about a bunch of stretches!
Through yoga I’ve come to appreciate just how amazing our bodies (and minds) are naturally (without exercise, and especially with it).
In nature growth, life, just happens.
There’s that famous bible verse about the lilies in the field not worrying about flowering.
It reminds us that we shouldn’t worry about growing, achieving, changing – that we are already enough (perfect even) the way we are, the way we were born. All we have to do is remember that.
As Neil Donald Walsh (of Conversations with God fame) says – who’s going to argue a newborn baby isn’t perfect?
Our job then is to simply grow in awareness of our own natural potential that we’ve forgotten – that society’s expectations and our own self-judgment cause us to become unconscious to.
We forget what we were born to do, our innate purpose and so go in search for it – getting frustrated and down on ourselves in the process.
We hide our talents under a biblical bushel because our ego fears judgment.
We need to unlearn what we don’t need to know.
Our job as parents is to let those little preppies blossom like lilies in the field as they start a journey of learning that’s truly about them discovering all that they were born capable of. It’s to make sure our school system and our own expectations don’t stifle them from discovering all that they already are.
I think yoga and meditation can help kids stay aware of their own amazing potential (before they forget it), even as society seems to want to squash their confidence and their dreams.
And our job is to grow consciously as role models and simply for ourselves – in awareness and appreciation of our own divine potential.
What do you reckon – how do we stop our kids losing their belief in their own potential? How do we regain it ourselves? Linking up with Grace for another FYBF and joining in for Weekend Rewind with Bron, Sonia, Kelly and Sonia.