It’s Halloween and I’m not scared.
I’m not secretly scared that I’m slipping under the seductive spell of alcohol. I was a bit frightened, prior to #ocsober, but I’ve faced that demon down.
Said BOO! to a bad habit, because that’s what it was.
I read this post (full of some really interesting research) this week about addiction being overcome by mindfulness. Not saying I had anything more than a predilection for a wine (or too many) at the end of frustrating day at work or a frazzled few hours with the kids, but I can see how mindfulness takes us out of the place we seek to escape to (or from) through our addictions and bad habits, be they too much social media, too much shopping or even substance abuse.
The post, by Chris Willitts of Mindful Muscle, refers to a term coined by Marc Gafni for ‘everyday’ addictions ‘A-VOID-DANCE’ – basically the things we habitually do to dance around the VOID we feel in our lives because we can’t answer the BIG questions of who we are, why we’re here and are we good enough. I SO get that. I have been dancing around a VOID rather than face it, even as I’ve been trying to stare into it, looking out into the external emptiness even as I’ve been finding the peace in yoga (and myself) to try to fill the void with purpose.
And now #Ocsober is over, but I’ll be staying sober more often than not. I’ve worked out that to bring things back to balance you sometimes have to go all out (or in this case, not all out at all) to find an equilibrium. When you prove to yourself that you can do something you can then go easier on yourself, safe in the knowledge that the hard can be handled.
I don’t think it’s any accident, but a synchronicity that has me completing #ocsober (I still need to raise more money to reach my target – so come on, please help if you can) as I complete my yoga teacher training (or the first certification that will be the start of my journey to learning more and more about yoga, because there is sooo much to learn). The fact that it’s Halloween is another happy coincidence because I really do feel I’m getting rid of the ghosts of the past.
Tomorrow I graduate from my course and I’ll toast with a glass of champagne.
But meantime, I’ve discovered mocktails (a drink in the hand, even a non-alcoholic one, is better than two in the bush – or at the bar – when you just have to get through that temptation hour, ie not happy hour, between about 5 – 6.30pm).
So I say, CHEERS! (and don’t forget to make a donation, however small, to help the Life Education cause). Here’s some mocktails for you to enjoy.
Or try out some swamp juice (featured image).
Happy Halloween! Tell me what’s your favourite mocktail (or do you only like cocktails)? What are you most scared of? Linking up with the lovely Grace for FYBF and with the Bron, Kelly, Sonia and Sonia for a Weekend Rewind.