At the moment I’m being tortured (or is that too strong a word?) to the tune of ‘Let it go’ from Disney’s hit movie Frozen.
(Ok – I know it’s a common complaint, but here I stand, well write anyway).
My torturer is very cute though (as I’m sure yours is) – in my case our four-year-old son is rather obsessed with watching the video clip (at least several times a day – he’d watch the whole movie over and over if he could).
He throws his arms wide with the appropriate theatrics and belts out his own funny version of the lyrics, while sometimes wearing a dress and all the while insisting he’s a girl! It may just be a stage, whatever.
While my son throw his hands in the air and defiantly sings ‘cold not bogger (that would be bother) me anyway’ – the song does bother me, just a little.
I’m all for female empowerment, throwing off the shackles etc, but why does it have to be so annoying (some of the parodies are quite good though).
There’s so too much societal focus on ‘letting go’ – it has become a universal mantra and a sort of obsession – let go of pain, release the past, let go of every last bit of sh#t until there is NOTHING left.
Nothing –would that be no lessons learned, no wisdom gained, no resilience, no muscle memory of pain, nothing bad left in your life, or if so, head to therapy girl (not saying therapy is never needed, just not until you’ve let every last thing go – you simply don’t have to).
The ‘need’ to let go first, excuses our failure to move forward right now.
It can keep us in therapy, in limbo, and in pain! Frozen really.
Now as someone who had a sh#tload of ‘stuff’ that I held onto from years of infertility, pregnancy loss and the long adoption process, I understand the need to let go.
And I have, slowly over the years – infertility no longer sears my soul and the scars have healed as, well, scar tissue. I’m OK (with two beautiful adopted kids, what’s not to be OK about, right?).
But I don’t think I’ve let everything go though – and wonder if I ever will (or even should).
What I do know is that if we flip the focus to what we let in – if we concentrate on accepting a whole lot of good stuff, we sweep the sh#t right out of the way.
We actually transform all that negative energy into positive stuff (same energy, just different frequency). It’s every bit as magical as turning water into ice, or unfreezing it for that matter. Sometimes we don’t even realize it’s happening.
All of a sudden its summer and our snowman hasn’t melted after all! Happy days!
But if we worry (another thing we really should let go of) about letting go of all the ‘bad’ stuff (pain, regret, jealousy, fear, anger etc etc) – if we obsess about the releasing, the giving up – we can actually close ourselves off from the letting in, from receiving.
We can even convince ourselves that we don’t deserve to receive until we let go – and that’s harmful.
Especially when there’s a whole lot to let in:
the list goes on, and on.
So go on: ‘Let it in….let it in…..
To revise those famous Frozen lyrics – ‘A (bit of) pain never bothered me anyway’.
Linking up with the lovely Jess for IBOT. What are you letting in this winter, or summer, wherever you may be?