There are two main ways of looking at life, don’t you reckon.
- Life happens
- You make life happen
That’s very yin-yang – the first approach being about accepting what the universe dishes up (brussel sprouts anyone?), the second about taking action to dish up your own dinner (mmm, pizza).
But there are variations on the main themes, and as always, it is about the balance (pizza with brussel sprouts, bacon and blue cheese anyone? – believe me it is yummy).
1a. Life (as in sh#t) happens
Yep, stuff happens that seems to get in the way of life, and all we can really do is accept.
On Sunday night as I was about ready to write a blog post (well as I was waiting for inspiration/motivation) Miss Yin came in crying because she’d tried to curl her hair with a teasing comb and it was horribly stuck.
What followed was more than an hour of trying to work the hair loose, cutting bits of the comb teeth free to try to wrestle the hair out and hoping liberal amounts of conditioner would soften the knot. After I finally got the stuck comb out she went to bed with the huge remaining knot in a zip-lock bag full of conditioner, hoping it would soften loose.
The next morning required another 40 minutes of painful extrication, but we did manage to save some hair!
This blog post had to wait a little longer as my website went down, but hey life (aka sh#t) happens.
1b. Life just happens
By this I mean that the days are dull and the everyday sort of disappears before you know it. All you can do is try to not get lost in the mundane.
On Saturday morning I counted 8 toilet rolls in our bathroom (I’d been using our ensuite and trying not to notice, but couldn’t stand it any longer). I posted to Facebook and everyone agreed with the universal truth that only women (and by that I mean mothers) ever change toilet rolls.
Life can be boring and empty toilet rolls accumulate before you can be bothered changing things.
1c. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans (John Lennon)
You can be too busy trying to change things that you forget to live life. No problems missing the toilet rolls that need changing, but you really don’t want to miss out on the sunrises and sunsets, the funny things your children say that you hear but don’t really listen to or take note of, and the magic that can be found even in the mundane.
Like the view that you might miss as you rush to leave the carpark at work, or the one as you arrive home.
1d. Life happens for you
This is the best way of looking at life – with gratitude and trust that the universe has your back. Always. When you really believe the universal flow is taking you in the right direction (even when it feels like you are on a massive detour), then you can start to find your flow – to flow with life in the direction you want to go. I know this can be hugely hard, but the only alternatives are to fight life, or simply give up on it.
2. Life is what you make it
You can super-charge the flow of life when you believe that life happens for you and take actions to help the universe along rather than fighting it. We can only ever manifest the life we want from a position of acceptance, gratitude, trust and surrender. We can always choose how we respond to fate and how we respond regardless of fear.
Linking up with Essentially Jess for IBOT and joining in with Grace and the gang for FYBF. And also joining in with the weekend rewind team Kelly, Sonia and Bron. Tell me have you had any hair dramas lately? How is the empty toilet roll collection going in your household?