I’m on holidays as I publish this (oh I’m sorry to make you jealous) – enjoying that sense of space we find so hard to find in our everyday lives. What do we look forward to when we go on holidays? Mostly doing NOTHING.
I can’t get away from the theme right now that what we need most when it comes to selfcare are opportunities to press pause in our life (see this post 10 #parentingpauses). Forget massages and facials and new shoes (well maybe not forget them, but they are not as important – remember it’s not about being selfish but self-full).
What we need most is not something – but nothing – space, silence, stillness.
I think we feel empty because our consumerist, yang society is always telling us we’re not enough. And when we feel empty we’re conditioned by our consumerist, yang society to want something to fill the void. Another toy, something to eat or drink, some new success, something (and often anything – think drugs, TV, facebook, candy crush saga, even random emergencies) to take our mind off everything (because we have so much to deal with)!
We don’t sit well with empty.
Outside of holidays we feel guilty if we are doing NOTHING and yet we yearn for it.
It’s crazy how we (are taught to) think, isn’t it?
We have too much to deal with, with so we think we just need more time. But time is both finite (when it comes to getting things done – there just ain’t any more) and infinite (when it comes to just being and doing nothing – it’s endless).
We know (well most of us) that aside from the more time we wish for, we need less stuff to fill the time we are lucky to have. But that simple answer isn’t so simple to achieve.
Sometimes I think my words simply add to the clutter that complicates life.
If I’m saying that what we need is so simple – stillness, space, silence – then why do I clog up your screen with more of my written detritus. Perhaps I should just say NOTHING.
So I won’t post another Christmas gift list (I did this one last year that was all about giving and receiving love and connection, presence – not presents).
But I won’t stop writing (because there are plenty of people writing about simple living so maybe my words aren’t a waste of space – think of the famous Leo Babuto from Zen Habits – Michelle from My Slow Living Adventure interviews him on her blog).
Instead I’ll watch my words, choose them wisely, and so offer you the space and time to find nothing. Maybe go meditate.
NOTHING is what can fill the emptiness we feel from too much of EVERYTHING.
Linking up from beautiful Brunswick Heads with Essentially Jess for IBOT – Do you agree that NOTHING is the simple answer?