I’m an Adoptive Mum (not a Dance Mom)

Kathy Krugeradoption, gratitude, motherhood13 Comments

So it’s National Adoption Awareness Week and I’m proud to say I’m an Adoptive Mum. Although you can drop the adoptive and I’ll happily just be a proud mum. Our children came to us through adoption and we feel forever grateful that we get to parent them – always aware of the loss of their biological parents in not being … Read More

Kathy KrugerI’m an Adoptive Mum (not a Dance Mom)

Fortune cookie wisdom (what it really means to be smart)

Kathy Krugeradoption, love, motherhood30 Comments

Do you believe in fortune cookie wisdom? Being into all things yin and yang, it’s not surprising that I do. Actually what I believe in is wisdom that runs much deeper than intelligence and learning, that it is full of insight and knowing and is earned through experience. So last Friday for Harmony Day, Mr Yang and I braved a … Read More

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Does meditation drive you mad?

Kathy Krugeradoption, meditation, yoga19 Comments

Well sometimes it does for me, but mostly when I’m not actually doing meditation and feeling bad that I’m not actually doing meditation when I feel I should be. Then I’m mad (mostly at myself). Yep meditation – just another shoulda, woulda, coulda in life. It’s March, actually the 6th already as I post, and in typical not-getting-myself organized-enough style I … Read More

Kathy KrugerDoes meditation drive you mad?

On being trolled

Kathy Krugeradoption, perspective23 Comments

I don’t know whether you call it trolling but the nasty vitriol sure feels like it. On Tuesday I sent in a piece to Mamamia (a big deal for me, as I’ve been scared of putting myself out there). It’s coming up to the 10th anniversary of adopting Miss Yin and I shared the letter to a birthmother that I … Read More

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Let’s talk about infertility and pregnancy loss

Kathy Krugeradoption, IVF, motherhood, perspective46 Comments

We’re talking about it, at least a lot more than we used to. When I was struggling with infertility (I’m still infertile, but it’s a moot point these days), I felt so isolated. I isolated myself. Of course I knew I wasn’t alone – I’d meet plenty of women at the fertility clinic, faces that I’d barely scan and could … Read More

Kathy KrugerLet’s talk about infertility and pregnancy loss

If you didn’t laugh, you’d cry

Kathy Krugeradoption, China, gratitude, perspective20 Comments

Sh#t happens, sometimes piles of poo. And sometimes the only way to get through (as opposed to step on) all the sh*t is to laugh about it. I wrote about the drama (and comedy) that seems to want to accompany us whenever we travel in this post, but there’s one comedy of errors that takes the proverbial cake and needs … Read More

Kathy KrugerIf you didn’t laugh, you’d cry

What it means to be family

Kathy Krugeradoption, happiness, love, motherhood, perspective, red thread29 Comments

This past weekend I spent time with both sides of my extended family – something that rarely happens. I hadn’t seen my brother, sister, brother-in-law, niece and nephews since Christmas – we can’t believe where the time went. Does the first third of the year always disappear faster than the others?

Kathy KrugerWhat it means to be family

Letter to a birth mother

Kathy Krugeradoption, China, love, motherhood, red thread12 Comments

How do you find the right words to say – that’s what I’m struggling with this mother’s day as I think of my children’s birthmothers. I’ve previously shared a letter I wrote to our daughter’s birthmother that I penned almost 9 years ago (it’s on this page, but I’ve copied it below). I found the ‘right’ words then, but they … Read More

Kathy KrugerLetter to a birth mother

Perfect expectations

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, IVF, motherhood23 Comments

Perfection has to be the most impossible of expectations yet I have burdened myself with it. Not, thankfully, in every area of my life, or I might just have sacrificed my sanity. I’m quite Ok with not having the house spotless (or even close), and with being on the lax side of the grooming (although not hygiene) department. In any … Read More

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Adoption awareness week

Kathy Krugeradoption, motherhood22 Comments

I hesitate to write this, because adoption can be so divisive. But in my heart and soul, I can’t see why it divides, and so I can’t see why I shouldn’t write my open, honest opinions, born (no pun intended) of our experiences. I’m no expert, just someone doing the best they can. And this what I know. All adoption … Read More

Kathy KrugerAdoption awareness week

The moral of the story

Kathy Krugeradoption, happiness, motherhood10 Comments

Nine years ago today our daughter came into our lives to howls of protest (hers) and tears of joy (ours). Her face said it all, her cries the loudest in a room deafened by the chorus of crying of six Chinese babies about to begin lives as Chinese-Australian girls.

Kathy KrugerThe moral of the story

A tale of three bears

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, IVF, motherhood9 Comments

Teddy bears are worth holding onto for (dear) life – you are never too old. Some things don’t serve you, like guilt, and shame and old socks and you just need to let them go, but not a treasured teddy. A teddy (or two or three) can take you through life’s lowest lows. You see when we think of favourite … Read More

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