Three letters can make a big difference – that’s why while it is human to f*** up, it is vital to fail up. I f##k up a little more often than I would like, but it is not really such a F@!k up unless I fail to learn my lesson. And I’m human so I do fail to learn my … Read More
A Mother’s Day gift – no guilt
As you wake up to breakfast in bed, handmade cards, craft and drawings, the precious gift of an “I love you Mum’ mug with hot chocolate and a marshmallow from the Mother’s Day stall not to mention an obligatory new pair of slippers, it’s hard not to feel grateful. And I am, and I will be on Sunday. But I’m … Read More
Perfect expectations
Perfection has to be the most impossible of expectations yet I have burdened myself with it. Not, thankfully, in every area of my life, or I might just have sacrificed my sanity. I’m quite Ok with not having the house spotless (or even close), and with being on the lax side of the grooming (although not hygiene) department. In any … Read More
Kissing isn’t sex
By Kathy Kruger The other week we had THAT talk. Out of the blue really, and I’m not sure the few wines I decided were required really helped. Miss Yin will probably kill me at some stage in the future for this post, but I figure I can delete it prior to my death. It went like this – we … Read More
The guilt gene!
I can’t help it – it’s in my genes! For a Mum who wonders more than most about nature vs nurture (our kids being adopted and all), I wonder about the DNA that leaves me feeling like someone is always saying to me ‘Thou Shalt Not’ of ‘Thou should not have’ from on high, from within myself – where is … Read More
Do you ever get over infertility?
Do you ever get over the death of a loved one? Do you ever fully recover after trauma, or accident, or a life-threatening illness? Does divorce always leave love a little (or a lot) broken for you? Does financial loss always leave you feeling poor? Does failure always leave you feeling a failure? When you get a second chance, renewed … Read More
Yinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine
Yin and yang can mistakenly be taken to mean bad (that’s supposedly yin) and good (supposedly yang). But in reality there is ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yin and ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yang. And then there are ‘bad’ versions of both. It’s all relative. Actually it’s all about balance and excess. The worst place to be is actually when we allow either … Read More
Not another baby shower
I should start by saying it was beautiful, just as the baby who will be my great niece or nephew (OMG) will no doubt be beautiful. It’s been a while between baby showers (if not drinks). And they get easier, they really do, but still…. Ok – first to address my faux horror at being a Great Aunt (by marriage I must … Read More
Reason or excuse (let’s be honest)
The dog ate my homework! Have you ever tried to call an excuse a reason? Reasons are real right? Valid, logical facts that can’t be disputed, right? Excuses are just expressions of fear, lame rationalisations at best, grounded in emotion not logic, right? Or maybe wrong? Well about the reasons anyway. Confused? You see I think that I find reasons … Read More
Balancing the baggage
Is it time to travel light through life? Last year, when we travelled to Canada to live for twelve months with our two adopted kids in tow, you can imagine we carried lots of baggage. Life is seldom a straightforward journey, especially as far as infertility and adoption are concerned.
