Why it is good to F*@# up

Kathy Krugerguilt, love29 Comments

Three letters can make a big difference – that’s why while it is human to f*** up, it is vital to fail up. I f##k up a little more often than I would like, but it is not really such a F@!k up unless I fail to learn my lesson. And I’m human so I do fail to learn my … Read More

Kathy KrugerWhy it is good to F*@# up

A Mother’s Day gift – no guilt

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, motherhood, mummytime13 Comments

As you wake up to breakfast in bed, handmade cards, craft and drawings, the precious gift of an “I love you Mum’ mug with hot chocolate and a marshmallow from the Mother’s Day stall not to mention an obligatory new pair of slippers, it’s hard not to feel grateful. And I am, and I will be on Sunday. But I’m … Read More

Kathy KrugerA Mother’s Day gift – no guilt

Perfect expectations

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, IVF, motherhood23 Comments

Perfection has to be the most impossible of expectations yet I have burdened myself with it. Not, thankfully, in every area of my life, or I might just have sacrificed my sanity. I’m quite Ok with not having the house spotless (or even close), and with being on the lax side of the grooming (although not hygiene) department. In any … Read More

Kathy KrugerPerfect expectations

Kissing isn’t sex

Kathy Krugerguilt, motherhood26 Comments

By Kathy Kruger The other week we had THAT talk. Out of the blue really, and I’m not sure the few wines I decided were required really helped. Miss Yin will probably kill me at some stage in the future for this post, but I figure I can delete it prior to my death. It went like this – we … Read More

Kathy KrugerKissing isn’t sex

The guilt gene!

Kathy Krugerchange, guilt, motherhood, peace27 Comments

I can’t help it – it’s in my genes! For a Mum who wonders more than most about nature vs nurture (our kids being adopted and all), I wonder about the DNA that leaves me feeling like someone is always saying to me ‘Thou Shalt Not’  of ‘Thou should not have’ from on high, from within myself – where is … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe guilt gene!

Do you ever get over infertility?

Kathy Krugeradoption, gratitude, guilt, IVF, motherhood, perspective31 Comments

Do you ever get over the death of a loved one? Do you ever fully recover after trauma, or accident, or a life-threatening illness? Does divorce always leave love a little (or a lot) broken for you? Does financial loss always leave you feeling poor? Does failure always leave you feeling a failure? When you get a second chance, renewed … Read More

Kathy KrugerDo you ever get over infertility?

Yinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Kathy Krugerbalance, guilt, motherhood, yinyang12 Comments

Yin and yang can mistakenly be taken to mean bad (that’s supposedly yin) and good (supposedly yang). But in reality there is ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yin and ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yang. And then there are ‘bad’ versions of both. It’s all relative. Actually it’s all about balance and excess. The worst place to be is actually when we allow either … Read More

Kathy KrugerYinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Not another baby shower

Kathy Krugeradoption, contentment, gratitude, guilt, IVF, motherhood, red thread2 Comments

I should start by saying it was beautiful, just as the baby who will be my great niece or nephew (OMG) will no doubt be beautiful.  It’s been a while between baby showers (if not drinks). And they get easier, they really do, but still…. Ok – first to address my faux horror at being a Great Aunt (by marriage I must … Read More

Kathy KrugerNot another baby shower

Reason or excuse (let’s be honest)

Kathy Krugerchange, fear, guilt3 Comments

The dog ate my homework! Have you ever tried to call an excuse a reason? Reasons are real right? Valid, logical facts that can’t be disputed, right? Excuses are just expressions of fear, lame rationalisations at best, grounded in emotion not logic, right? Or maybe wrong? Well about the reasons anyway. Confused? You see I think that I find reasons … Read More

Kathy KrugerReason or excuse (let’s be honest)

Balancing the baggage

Kathy Krugerbalance, contentment, perspective1 Comment

Is it time to travel light through life? Last year, when we travelled to Canada to live for twelve months with our two adopted kids in tow, you can imagine we carried lots of baggage. Life is seldom a straightforward journey, especially as far as infertility and adoption are concerned.

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