A Mother’s Day gift – no guilt

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, motherhood, mummytime13 Comments

As you wake up to breakfast in bed, handmade cards, craft and drawings, the precious gift of an “I love you Mum’ mug with hot chocolate and a marshmallow from the Mother’s Day stall not to mention an obligatory new pair of slippers, it’s hard not to feel grateful. And I am, and I will be on Sunday. But I’m … Read More

Kathy KrugerA Mother’s Day gift – no guilt

Perfect expectations

Kathy Krugeradoption, guilt, IVF, motherhood23 Comments

Perfection has to be the most impossible of expectations yet I have burdened myself with it. Not, thankfully, in every area of my life, or I might just have sacrificed my sanity. I’m quite Ok with not having the house spotless (or even close), and with being on the lax side of the grooming (although not hygiene) department. In any … Read More

Kathy KrugerPerfect expectations

The chat and the whinge

Kathy Krugerbalance, motherhood, yinyang9 Comments

Butter wouldn’t melt right! That face – this adorable face – you’ve probably seen it many times but hey, it sucks you in doesn’t it? And lately the chats do too – little snatches on the way here and there, sometimes full-on conversations. They take me to places of sheer joy as I marvel at a four-year-old’s unique perspective on … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe chat and the whinge

Falling apart, putting the pieces back together

Kathy Krugerbalance, guilt, happiness, motherhood12 Comments

When you fall apart, the pieces never fit back perfectly again, do they? There are cracks, and chinks, and little holes in your heart where you can see straight through to your soul. Those holes and flaws let the light of love in, and your own light radiate, for all the world to see – but only if you don’t mind … Read More

Kathy KrugerFalling apart, putting the pieces back together

The guilt gene!

Kathy Krugerchange, guilt, motherhood, peace27 Comments

I can’t help it – it’s in my genes! For a Mum who wonders more than most about nature vs nurture (our kids being adopted and all), I wonder about the DNA that leaves me feeling like someone is always saying to me ‘Thou Shalt Not’  of ‘Thou should not have’ from on high, from within myself – where is … Read More

Kathy KrugerThe guilt gene!

Do you ever get over infertility?

Kathy Krugeradoption, gratitude, guilt, IVF, motherhood, perspective31 Comments

Do you ever get over the death of a loved one? Do you ever fully recover after trauma, or accident, or a life-threatening illness? Does divorce always leave love a little (or a lot) broken for you? Does financial loss always leave you feeling poor? Does failure always leave you feeling a failure? When you get a second chance, renewed … Read More

Kathy KrugerDo you ever get over infertility?

Yinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Kathy Krugerbalance, guilt, motherhood, yinyang12 Comments

Yin and yang can mistakenly be taken to mean bad (that’s supposedly yin) and good (supposedly yang). But in reality there is ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yin and ‘good’ or ‘positive’ yang. And then there are ‘bad’ versions of both. It’s all relative. Actually it’s all about balance and excess. The worst place to be is actually when we allow either … Read More

Kathy KrugerYinyangmother traits (good) not necessarily mine

Because being a mother is all about the other(s)

Kathy Krugerbalance, gratitude, motherhood, mummytime5 Comments

It’s time to bring back balance with some Mmmm… Massage – unwind and relax (with or without Sven) Meditation – quiet time for yourself (YES just you and the universe) Mindfullness – because you truly have time to think Meals – that you don’t cook yourself (preferably at a restaurant) Movies – that aren’t meant for kids Music – that you … Read More

Kathy KrugerBecause being a mother is all about the other(s)

Who are you, in private (and who am I)?

Kathy Krugerbalance, contentment, mummytime, yinyang4 Comments

So I’m reluctant to post this, since you might like to think of me as some kind of enlightened mother. Don’t you? (he, he!) But I will, because I’m increasingly sharing my life with you, peeling open the can of worms inside, exposing the gaping wounds of my imperfections. I don’t know whether you’ve recoiled yet. Anyway, what’s a little … Read More

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Kathy KrugerWho are you, in private (and who am I)?