I am feeling unresolved this New Year. There are things that I
should, could, will do (change) in 2014 yet I am not calling them resolutions. And I’m not planning on starting the New Year with a big bang that ends in a whimper.
What about you?
New Year feels like such an artificial time to change, to really change. Resolutions seem trite.
2014 deserves better – and so do you.
It deserves dreams and possibilities, not just changes to bad habits.
It deserves more than one word to live by (although that’s a start) – it deserves a dictionary of daring.
I know that 2014 should, could, will be about letting go AND letting in, balance really.
We so often focus on all the things we need to give up or lose (like weight and wine) when it should be more about what we take on, allow into our life (like a new exercise routine that we come to love, a new friendship that we come to treasure). (I wrote some great tips on letting in for this Tiny Buddha post: You are worthy of receiving: ten things to let into your life.)
And we focus on the magic date as though the things that
should, could happen, magically will, just as the clock ticks over to January 1 (for a start if we’re nursing a hangover from 2013 we hardly have the resolve to change immediately).
Letting in and letting go – like breathing in and out – this makes much more sense to me.
To use the yoga breathing analogy, it’s about becoming aware of what we let into our lives and choosing to ‘breathe deeper’ – letting only those things in our life that aren’t shallow and leave us gasping for meaning. And it’s about letting go to make room for the good stuff, not simply for the sake (or the resolution) of giving up something.
For me, work circumstances will leave me in ‘limbo land’ for the first two weeks of 2014 and then we spend ten days in Japan, visiting Tokyo and skiing. I can’t wait, and so I’m not really focused on what I should, could, will be doing next year. I’ll get back and have a few days to refocus before the Chinese New Year (of the Horse) arrives on February 1 – I guess that will be my true new start.
But I will be breathing into it – balancing my approach to change in that sweet spot between procrastinating and rushing headlong, letting in as much as letting go. I’ll be moving forward, but allowing things to resolve too. At least I’ll be trying to.
I’ll be trying to remember that sometimes change is not about right places and right times, but right moments, wherever and whenever they happen.
Meantime I don’t think it hurts to explode some of the bad stuff and celebrate the good as I’ve done with my video – Happy New Year.
Oh and see how much it is possible to grow in one year – last year Miss Yin was urging us to see how far we could stretch into 2013 – this year, leg upstretched and balanced, she’s reminding us how much we can stretch from a place of balance.