*trigger warning – cuteness*
Do you wish you had a dollar for every person who has agonized over finding their purpose in life? I’d put my multi-millions towards finding – no make that creating, – more meaning in life. And it would be wonderful.
(of course money itself doesn’t create meaning, but we all know that story).
While I believe in the concept of purpose in life, or Dharma, I don’t think it can really be found by searching – or maybe that’s just my excuse (here Dharma, there Dharma, where did you disappear to Dharma)!
You see I think Dharma is revealed to us only when we surrender the searching, and I think meaning can be found in lots of places if we just look hard enough.
Confused – play along with my semantics.
In narrowing your focus to find ‘your purpose’ it is easy to have the blinkers on – you can’t seem to find anything exciting in the everyday and the joy of curiosity is lost in the burning quest for purpose.
But if you focus on finding meaning then it can be found in lots of different ways.
Simply by living mindfully, purposefully, you find purpose.
Cooking (or maybe not). Crafting (definitely not). Writing. Playing music. Dancing. Painting. Starting a business. Playing with your kids. The secret is lies in creating/caring/connecting. If you do one or all of these things there will be meaning. And so you’ll be doing these things on purpose.
In her book ‘Big Magic’ Elizabeth Gilbert points to curiosity being the key to creativity, which in turn is the secret to finding meaning and purpose.
In her beautiful ballad ‘Amazing Life’ Claire Bowditch speaks of wanting to life this ‘amazing life’ in many different ways, but not knowing where to start. So she (wisely) says just start with one thing. Do it. It may or may not be your Dharma, but at the least it will add meaning to your life until your Dharma reveals itself.
What if life isn’t about climbing the mountain but (merely) meandering through the wilderness, curious and always open-minded to the lessons we can learn along the way.
It’s bringing a child’s eye to the every day, and seeing possibility instead of limitation.
As for me, purpose has been getting lost lately down the rabbit hole of life and I’ve had to literally eek out this post which I’m sure is all too similar to words that have come to me before, much more eloquently. But I always look at things anew during our annual family holiday to Brunswick Heads.
And it was the colour orange that spoke to me, reminding me of the sexy sacral chakra that is all about owning your desires and being creative – guilt being the enemy of both. Yes, that old chestnut is still hanging around (ready for roasting on an open fire this Christmas)!
Something tells me that a certain new addition to our family is soon going to be teaching me even more about being curious, open-minded and present enough so that dharma will soon be licking me fair on the face – hello there Rufus (he’s 2.5 weeks old here but we have to wait until early January to bring him home).
Do you agree that purpose is found more in finding things meaningful than in searching for that ‘one thing’? No point asking if you think our new puppy is cute right.