Yoga, yinyang and the art of comparison

Kathy Krugercontentment, yinyang, yoga24 Comments

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So enough already with congratulations and celebrations on the completion of my yoga teacher training (I really do appreciate the kind words I’ve received).

On Saturday I graduated with my cohort of 13 new yoga teachers and it was a nice milestone – it’s up to me how I move forward from what is just the beginning of an exciting new journey.

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Dressed up with a nice red Fireshaper face!

I wore this new dress (because sometimes you just need a new dress) and I felt pretty good about myself (in a physical, if slightly shallow, non-yogic sense). The dress has a panel cut-out for a peep of midriff (which I reckon is still allowed at my age). It also features a front thigh slit that I ‘softened’ a little by wearing matching black shape-wear shorts that gave the appearance of being part of the dress skirt with the bonus of sucking in wobbly bits (as you do at my age).!

My midriff was allowed to peep out (and the slit was deemed acceptable) because I’ve lost some centimetres and toned my body from lots of yoga of late, and more importantly because yoga has given me the confidence to show a peep of midriff (hey I’m going for the yogini– yogi in a bikini look, for the first time in a very long time this summer). Most importantly yoga has given me confidence.

Full stop.

But still I compare…..

Last week I avoided going to a class taught by two of my fellow new teachers because I was suffering seasickness (sounds like a far-fetched excuse but it was mostly true).

Last night I skipped the first class being taught by two other classmates because, well, I was worried I might want to compare. I didn’t want to come up wanting. And I didn’t want to be all smug (and not yogic at all) by comparing myself favourably either. I told myself that it was too rushed after work (not quite as good an excuse as seasickness) – but really I didn’t want to risk comparison.

So that’s where I’m at, AVOIDANCE. If I don’t look – if I stare at myself in the mirror in the yoga room and don’t dare glance at my mentor who makes a handstand look perfect then I won’t have to compare. I know she’s great. I admire that she’s great. I just don’t have to see how great she is compared to me.

If I don’t think of my friend with the great job, or see another who is happily staying at home with the kids without pressure to work, if I don’t EVER check my FB feed then I won’t HAVE to compare. I won’t be tempted. I’ll kick the habit – just like I did during #ocsober.

And if I avoid opportunities for self-righteous back-slapping (note to self about #ocsober, and dressing up for yoga graduation) then I won’t have to be all smug and non-yogic either.

But that’s not life is it?

It’s not yoga. And it’s not yin yang.

Yoga asks you to sit with your judgment, in non-judgment (what the?).

Yep, just breathe through it, it will pass – all the judging and even the judging yourself for judging!

Sit with your eyes closed and you don’t have to compare yourself to anyone or yourself in the mirror!

Yin yang says we compliment each other, that the different parts of ourselves compliment each other, and that we are never made better nor are we made lesser by comparison. We just are who we are, whole and complete.

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Yinyang masterpiece – my yinyang circle is not better or lesser than your yinyang circle!

So I’m sitting on that yoga mat, in AWARENESS, not avoidance – and when I don’t do that, I’m cutting myself some slack.

I’m seeing how my strengths compliment my weaknesses, and how my weaknesses illuminate my strengths – and I’m cutting myself some slack.

You?

Linking up with the incomparable Jess for another IBOT.

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24 Comments on “Yoga, yinyang and the art of comparison”

  1. Michelle@myslowlivingadventure

    The mind is a complex thing isn’t it? Fortunately you’ve got your yogic principles to help you reframe what’s happening to you in a positive way, and to help you learn from it. It’s awesome. You are human, and you are a yogi. Congratulations by the way!

  2. min@writeofthemiddle.com

    I think you look bloody awesome in that dress!! Oh our minds are such complex things aren’t they?! Not only that, but we are always the hardest on ourselves. Loving the way you are thinking! I think I need to sit with my eyes closed way more often! 😉 Min xo

  3. Rachel_OurTownBNE

    A friend of mine made a very good point recently “Comparison is the thief of joy”. It is so true! there are so many areas where I am tempted to look at others and compare myself unfavorably (and beat myself up) or too favourably (and get that icky smug feeling). I’ve been making a real effort to recognise those thought processes and just breathe through them while having a quiet chat with myself. I don’t do yoga but *think* we might be on the same page!

  4. hugzillablog

    I am DREADFUL with comparison. Rather than being content with what I’ve done, I’m always looking at the person who is doing it BETTER. It really is a bloody thief of joy. I keep reminding myself that there will always be someone “better” and that I just have to do my best and run my own metaphorical race in life. I understand the theory, not so good at applying it in practice. I do find that *some* comparison spurs me on to better things, I just need to be kinder to myself in acknowledging my own efforts.

    1. Kathy Kruger

      You and I sound similar and I reckon it is pretty human. The only comparison I think that works is the one where you see others in difficult situations and realise how lucky you are and so practice gratitude.

  5. mummywifeme

    I’m a shocker for comparing myself to others. It only ever stresses me out and ends in unhappiness, so I’m really trying to put a stop to it. Good on you for cutting yourself some slack. I think you’re doing amazing. Just do it when you feel ready. You look SENSATIONAL in that dress xx

  6. Tegan Churchill

    Woo you look smoking in your new dress!
    The sitting with judgement sounds like something that I learned (and still struggle with) while doing the mindfulness component of DBT. It says that we can look at our emotions without judgement and just accept that they are.

  7. deb dane

    Awareness is key. Letting go of judgements of myself or others is the holy grail of being free from a lot of angst (not just comparison). Love this and so excited for your new journey. I am sure you will find a way to watch and support your classmates judgement free. Xx

  8. Kathy Kruger

    Thanks Rachel – I’ve heard that saying from your friend before and it is spot on. I reckon that recognition is really the most important part, because most of the time we are just ‘unconscious’ in our judgement. Sometimes I like to tell my ego to get lost – whether it’s berating me, or gloating. Thanks for visiting.

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