Mood swings (and see-saws)

Kathy Krugergo with the flow, gratitude, perspective13 Comments

When we think of mood swings we usually imagine crazy hormonal women, oscillating between normal and nice, and raving mad (I just look in the mirror).

But (within reason) mood swings are part of finding balance. NO REALLY.

I came home from work the other night (my first work-night after a five day Easter long-weekend) and felt like this:


(that would be flat as an (old-fashioned) tack, as opposed to sharp as a tack – if only I’d been smart enough to take two days annual leave to extend my break!)

Work feels a bit like water torture at the moment (or so I imagine from my days of enforced garden hosing – see this post).

So I come home, moody and sick to the stomach with a system (that would be work and its intolerable processes) than seems to want to render you powerless – nothing personal, so I should stop taking it that way, and just take a bloody break instead!

I finish my first G&T before I even notice hubby has cleaned up and done the floors – bless him.

I check emails and see one from a writer’s agent celebrating published authors, one of whom (Patricia Barton) has written a new memoir: Why God hates me.  Find myself coveting her title, even though God doesn’t hate, he only loves.

My love hate affair with work is another story – one I don’t need to bring home so much.

Hubby on the other hand deals with life and death (as a firefighter) – not often, but tragically too much.

Like the poor guy who was working on a car when it feel on top of him – he wasn’t found for a day or so and his passing wasn’t pretty (as if death ever is).

Hubby deals with death and all I have to handle is a bureaucracy that feels like it’s killing me!

The thing is, my bad mood from work is perfectly justifiable (although not helpful), just as gaining perspective from what hubby faces on the job, and what tragedies occur in life, is totally normal.

Had I let me bad mood prevail and not been prepared to welcome in perspective then I might have needed to give myself a ‘stiff uppercut’. As it is, I’m entitled to wince just a bit from the punch in the stomach that work seems to want to deliver, while also feeling extremely lucky to still be breathing.

I watch my girl dance (she must average at least 200+ flips, hand stands, pirouettes and walkovers per day) and find perspective (and pride, big time).

I feel my mood lift when I snuggle into my sleeping boy, who crashed it soon after I got home from work, grumpy (me), and will no doubt wake up grumpy (him), and maybe my mood will change again.

I reckon see-sawing is actually a legitimate way to find balance, just like wobbling.

So next time someone calls me a moody bitch (or more likely I label myself that), I can be confident that it’s OK, just as long as my good moods balance out the bad – as long as the seesaw lands on the side of pleasant and I apologize for my unpleasantness.

An even keel (excuse yet another cliché) still describes a moving vessel – you can rock the boat (sorry), just don’t tip it until it overturns.

And then this, this morning. Perspective.


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Anzac Day Dawn Service, Surfers Paradise Beach.

How do you find ‘everyday’ perspective as moods swing and life see-saws?


Linking up with Grace for FYBF this Anzac Day. Lest we Forget.


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13 Comments on “Mood swings (and see-saws)”

  1. Bec @ The Plumbette

    Well being a woman and a pregnant woman at that my mood swings have been like a see saw too. But I think it’s good to exercise the emotion out because it doesn’t do anyone any good keeping our bad feelings in. Easier said than done because I have also perfected that strategy too. I think you just need to ride with the mood swings. Perspective always helps to break the mood doesn’t it?
    Your poor hubby to come across that man that died from being crushed under a car. I bet your hubby has seen so many tragedies. It takes a special heart to be a fire fighter or an ambulance officer I think. Hope you have a lovely Anzac Long weekend. 🙂

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Thanks for visiting Bec and sorry for my belated reply. I take hubby’s job for granted a lot as they do have quite a lot of time off with their shifts (and right now he has started 6 weeks holiday) – but they do deal with a lot sometimes. I reckon pregnancy gives you the perfect excuse for moodiness – I think mine is pre-menopause!

  2. kirstyrussell75

    This post really spoke to me. I’m veering between moods at the moment but I am trying to remain positive and keep some perspective – although sometimes that can be really, really hard!

  3. claireyhewitt01

    My hubby is in emergency services too, it can be difficult for him to come home and have me nagging about helping with the house cleaning while his mind is processing the death of innocent people in the community.

  4. Emily @ Have A Laugh On Me

    It’s so hard isn’t it? I just about lost my shiz because I’m tired, the kids are overtired and I went to kiss them goodnight and they were all so needy, I had to take a deep breath and get over myself. Great post. Lovely slideshow of images too. So sad about that man under car 🙁

    1. Kathy Kruger

      It was really tragic that accident. Things can change in a moment, and we never want the moments before to be ones that we take for granted or grumped our way through!

  5. Kate

    Isn’t it funny that we manage to maintain an even keel for most of the day and then it all comes out and we are all over the place by the end of the day?? My everyday perspective comes from God and being in nature – preferably at the beach. Sometimes I think I don’t want to see it because I’m in the middle of a good pity party though and then my husband can be annoyingly blunt in helping me find it again 🙂

    1. Kathy Kruger

      Yes the pity parties have to be cut short sometimes. I’m trying to bring things back to understanding that most of the things at work that drive me crazy aren’t personal.

  6. Grace

    You know what gets me even more moodier during a mood swing? When someone asks, “Why’re you being so moody??” Aaaaagh!!!
    And I agree. There is a time and place for it. Especially if it’s in balance with the times we’re happy.
    I’ve been in the grumps lately and my poor husband has beared the brunt of it. Then we watched “About Time” last night. I cried and cried, realising that I needed some perspective again.

    1. Kathy Kruger

      I think that’s the key Grace – knowing when we need a change of perspective and doing something (like watching a movie, being really attentive in play with the kids) that will give us a new outlook.


    This post resonated so much. I’m see-sawing between happy and moody at the moment too.. Since a particularly severe bout of back stabbing in my now ex workplace (yep, that bad) my moods are definitely on the wobble. I’m easily frustrated by the kids and the littlest things, I find myself struggling to stay present and my guilt about that is just making it worse. But its the littlest things that kill the moody bitch in me like a pretty sunset (last nights was particularly smile inducing), a cuddle from my babies, seeing them skipping (always makes me grin to see them so naturally happy) and I’m trying really hard to bring myself back and be present. Thanks for this post, it’s helped me find a little perspective.

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